Monday, May 15, 2023

"Second-Class Citizen" by Buchi Emecheta.

Adah Obi (nee Ofili) faces a lot of gender discrimination  in Nigeria and racial discrimination in England.

CHAPTER 1:  Adah is born a girl in Lagos as the first child of a couple who would have preferred a boy. They hail from Ibuza, a town near  Asaba in Delta State of Nigeria. As a girl child, she is kept at home while her younger brother , Boy, goes to an expensive school (Ladi-Lak). One day, she sneaks out of the house to a cheaper school, the Methodist School, where a neighbour (Mr Cole) teaches. She spends the whole day in  Mr Cole's class. The police charges Adah's mother with child neglect before her arrival from the school. Thereafter, Pa sends her to Ladi-Lak, like her brother. About a month later, Ibuza women in Lagos (including Ma, Adah's mother) prepare to welcome Lawyer Nweze (their hometown's first lawyer) from the United Kingdom. Adah (about 8 years old) is not allowed to go because it falls on a school day. She starts dreaming of going to the UK from then on.

CHAPTER 2: Just a few months after Adah starts school, Pa (her father) falls ill and dies. Adah is sent to live with her maternal uncle as a servant. Ma is inherited by Pa's brother while Boy is to live with one of Pa's cousins. Adah is kept at school only because she is too young for marriage at 9 and that her longer stay in school will fetch a bigger bride price. She has to fill a big drum with water at 4:30 am before going to school. At 11 years of age, she diverts the money  for an errand to pay for her entrance exam into a secondary school and gladly bears Cousin Vincent's beatings for lying that she lost the money. She gets a scholarship as one of the best 5 students in the exam. She wants to study further after her O'Level but needs a peaceful home environment. Teenagers, especially girls, are not allowed to live alone so Adah has to marry. Adah marries Francis Obi, a young man who is reading to be an accountant, under the Statutory Law. Her people ostracise her for not bringing in a bride price. She bears a girl, Titi (which means "flower" in Igbo language), and gets a job as a librarian in the American Consulate Library. Her pay is 3ce that of Francis, but his father assures him it is to their benefit. Most of the financial decisions are made by Francis'  family elders (on Adah's money!) without any of her family's elders being involved. (Her mother too has died, at 38!) This also fuels Adah's desire to relocate with her husband to a neutral place. Adah's salary goes into paying the school fees of Francis'  7 sisters and the rent, feeding herself and the children,etc. Francis leaves for England just before Adah bears a son, Vicky. She is to send him  £20 every month for his school fees and save for her and their children's transport fare to join him later.  Adah later persuades her parents-in-law to let her  join him. Boy sees her and her kids off into the ship taking them to England.

CHAPTER 3: Apart from the normal cold English climate in Liverpool,
Adah is shocked by the overcrowded house they have to live in. Their room is on the topmost floor. Francis tells her, "You may be living like an elite in Lagos working for the Americans, but you are a second-class citizen the day you land in England"(page 43). Away from his parents (who respect Adah for her high earnings), Francis feels free to beat her. She is lucky to get a job as a senior library assistant at North Finchley Library but gets pregnant from the unprotected sex of the first night of her arrival (when Titi is barely 2 years old and Vicky 9 months). "Francis would not work as he was studying and he said this would interfere with his progress"(page 45). Adah manages to conceal the pregnancy in order to get the job.

CHAPTER 4:  Adah starts work at the library on June 1, almost 3 months since her arrival in the UK. The chief librarian is Mrs Konrad, a Czech lady. The other girls are near Adah's age but single  with romantic ideals . Adah's landlord, landlady and co-tenants at Ashdown Street resent her children's not being sent to live with an English foster mother like most Nigerian families. Mr Babalola (a Nigerian man with a white wife, Janet) and Francis introduce Adah to Trudy (a prostitute and a registered daily child minder). Francis sleeps with Trudy, who takes care of Adah's children while Adah is at work. Trudy allows Titi and Vicky to be exposed to filth from a refuse dump near her home. Miss Stirling (the children's officer) says there is no nursery place available yet for Adah's children so they continue staying with Trudy. Francis blames his exam failures on Adah for bringing the children to England and getting pregnant soon after her arrival.

CHAPTER  5: The legendary mother's gut instincts drive Adah to Trudy's place from work early one day. She finds that Vicky is very ill with virus meningitis (an illness linked to contaminated food). While talking with Trudy on her findings (from reading relevant books at the library) one day, she sees Titi coming in very filthy as usual and loses her temper with Trudy. Miss Stirling (whose office is opposite Trudy's house at Malden Road) intervenes and announces that there are now nursery places for both Titi and Vicky. Trudy leaves Malden Street for Camden Town, in case Vicky dies and Adah comes for her.

 
   
CHAPTER  7:  In the 1940's, many Nigerians have gone to England to acquire degrees that will help them rule Nigeria after independence. They resign from their jobs and leave their wives and children behind. Most of them do not make it as they expect and marry just any white woman they see as a status symbol. Mr Babalola (mentioned in Chapter 4) is an example. So is Mr Noble (who dumps his dream after his gratuity has been used up in writing repeat exams). He buys an old terrace house in Willes Road, just by Kentish Town station. The top 2 floors  of the 3-storey house are occupied by 2 white sisters who, as rent-controlled tenants, cannot be evicted or have their rent increased by any new landlord. They refuse to pay more rent to Mr Noble, though the 41-year-old son of one of them can afford to (as a junior manager in an office). Unable to evict them legally, he threatens to report them to his mother "who is a great witch back home". Nobody takes him serious until the great winter of 1962-3 kills the sisters one after the other. The son flees in terror and nobody wants to live in his house again. He is married to Sue, a white woman who is much younger than he is. Adah and Francis move into Pa Noble's house 2 days to the expiration of their quit notice.

CHAPTER  8:  Adah feels belly pains on December 2, a week to her EDD. That same day, railway workers'  strike prevents her from going to work. When she returns home to tell Francis about the strike, he thinks she is lying and starts preaching about the Proverbs 31 (virtuous) woman. He also says she should give birth at home so they can earn £6. Midwives examine her at home and discover that the sideways-lying baby is too big for her to push out vaginally. She later gives birth that same day to a baby boy by Caesarean Section.

CHAPTER  9:  After the CS delivery, a rubber tube is fixed through her nose into the back of her mouth for 4 days. The tube prevents her from talking with the other patients. In the hospital ward, she meets a woman her mother's age who has just given birth to a son after 17 years of a childless marriage. The sleek young woman next to Adah's bed has a loving husband who has 2 grown sons from his late wife. However, the sleek woman later dies during childbirth.
Even after the 4th day, she still feels belly pains and is not allowed to move about on the bed. Her back is sore. * A nurse tells Adah to get her own nightdress and give up the hospital one for newer patients. Her boss at the library sends her a lump sum of money for the holidays she has not taken but Francis is already thinking of a £40 course and grudgingly buys her only the compulsory nightdress. 20-year-old Adah goes home after spending 13 days at the hospital.

CHAPTER  10:  Francis starts work as a postman (while Adah stays home for full recovery) but he always complains about the heavy bag of letters and the English dogs that may eat him up. Five days after leaving the hospital, Adah feels and looks weak as she takes Titi to a play-group. On her way back home, she meets a black student postwoman singing happily as she goes around distributing letters from her heavy bag. She is not a lazy pessimist like Francis. Mrs Konrad sends new Christmas gifts to Adah's children. Vicky's ear swells from a bedbug bite on Christmas Day and sends his parents into panic. But the incident shows that even second-class citizens are entitled to prompt emergency medical care, even on public holidays, and can report erring doctors to the police.

CHAPTER 11: Francis says the withdrawal method is enough for them as a family planning method. Adah doesn't want any more children,especially after that CS, so she forges his signature on the family planning clinic's consent form. She also doesn't want to jeopardize her new job at the Chalk Farm Library. After meeting a woman who has rashes all over her body from using the Pill, Adah settles for the cap. Francis feels the cap during sex, beats her up and creates a scene at home. Worse still, she gets pregnant again.

CHAPTER 12: Adah makes various friends at her new workplace, listening to (& drawing consolation from)  their various family problems without revealing her own. Mr Noble gets tired of Adah's and Francis'  frequent fights and asks them to leave. All the other women in the house also write an open letter to Adah to keep her philandering husband in check.  After Francis writes to his parents in Nigeria over the cap issue, Boy sends her all his savings to enable her leave Francis and come back home to her Consulate job. Mr Okpara (an Igbo man who worked while studying) reasons in vain with Francis to be more hardworking and not laze around the house. Francis works only when Adah can't (e.g. just after childbirth). Yet he still fails his exams.  To increase her chances of a safe delivery, Adah doesn't hand over her pay packet to Francis this time but feeds well and buys all the necessary baby things. She tells Francis to work to feed himself. She bears a girl, Dada (nicknamed "Sunshine"), vaginally as her 4th child at 21.     Hunger drives Francis to work as a clerical officer in the post office. He then becomes a miser , keeping his salary figure to himself and forbidding Adah and her children to touch his new radio. He grudgingly pays the rent and gives Adah £2 for the 6 of them. Adah feeds herself and her children from her savings from the superannuation pay. When her savings start running out, she decides to use her spare time to earn money from creative writing.

 

CHAPTER 13: Adah now has "4 children all under 5" (page 179) and stays home as a housewife for the first 5 months after Dada's birth. Francis resents having to work in the mornings and study in the evenings and on  Saturdays, though he gives Adah just enough money to feed his own mouth. She takes in clothes to sew for a clothing factory and writes her book, "The Bride Price".  Though her colleagues at the library (Bill and Peggy) encourage her to print the book after reading her manuscripts, Francis refuses to read her "rubbish" and burns it up several days later.  Adah gets an even better-paying job at the British Museum as a library officer. Francis gives up his job but Adah insists that her money is for herself and her children only. After a terrible fight necessitating police intervention, Adah moves out with her children and just a box of clothes for the children. A month later, she discovers that she is 3 months pregnant. Francis trails Titi and Vicky home from school. He says their culture doesn't permit a woman to leave her husband , no matter what. When she replies that the rule works only for men who take good care of their families, he attacks her physically and wrecks her flat. The Indian doctor's wife who treated her injuries encourages her to charge him to court for assault and call her as a witness. She takes the matter to court, in order to restrain Francis from ever coming near her and her little children. While Adah is afraid of sending him to prison and doesn't call in the doctor's wife as witness, Francis uses his knowledge of Law to tell a lot of lies in court. He claims that her bruises are from falls and that they had never been married (telling her in Igbo that he has burnt their marriage certificate, her passport and the children's birth certificates). The court grants Adah sole custody of the children as their breadwinner but asks Francis how much money he can contribute to their upkeep. He refuses to pay a dime and Adah tells the judge not to worry as she will never let her children down as long as she lives. She walks out of the court in tears and arrives at Camden Town, where she runs into an old male friend from her secondary school days. He pays for the taxi that takes her home from Camden Town because he thought she was still with her husband.

THE END.

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VOCABULARY

* According to page 188 of the novel, "Yaimirin ... means a race of cannibals" and is an abusive word often used on Igbos. Don't  earn a slap by misusing the word.

Friday, May 12, 2023

"Ìwọ ni" (a novel by Adékànmí Oyèdélé).

"Ìwọ ni" is the Yorùbá expression for "You are the one". The novel discusses how evil people meet their Waterloo without righteous people having to lift a finger to avenge themselves. The righteous people in the novel deliberately refuse to strike back, leaving vengeance to God.

The events in the novel occur in 2 towns which are 3 days'  walk apart.

Èyíàrà is a beautiful, humble and industrious young lady who is very popular in her hometown. She has a tragic flaw: stubbornness. Very few people can change her "Yes" to "No" or vice versa. Her parents are worried when she keeps postponing marriage, despite having many suitors. Èyíàrà's best friend and confidant is Fìkàwòkà (a wicked woman who is determined to turn Èyíàrà's wisdom into folly). Èyíàrà keeps warning her against wickedness but stays her friend!

An oracle says: (a) Èyíàrà's destined husband is in another town; (b)she will suffer a lot before attaining greatness; (c)one of her sons will become famous, if not a king; (d) she should beware of bad friends. Fìkàwòkà lies to Èyíàrà's parents that the oracle chose Pépélúwà (son of Èyíàrà's father's friend, Paríọlá), her most hated suitor who has bribed Fìkàwòkà to secure her for him. One day, Fìkàwòkà invites Èyíàrà to her house for a 2-day feast and plants Pépélúwà in Èyíàrà's room. He grabs Èyíàrà at night, deflowers her and becomes her husband according to the laws of their town (which forces a woman to marry whoever breaks her virginity). Things start turning sour for Èyíàrà after the marriage, which turns out childless. Fìkàwòkà, who keeps having  children for her own husband, advises her to have children from an  extramarital affair. Èyíàrà, though too wise to take that advice, doesn't argue with her.

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In another town about 3 days'  walk from Èyíàrà's town lives a king's slave, Ikúbàsírí (renamed Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà by the king). Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà is handsome but very crafty and wicked. The king makes him his steward in order to appease him and protect himself.  Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà judges many cases himself without consulting the king. The king's other queens hate Láwà, the favourite queen (whose father, Tetenise,helped the king ascend the throne before their marriage), for being the one the oracle said (just 19 days into her marriage!) will bear the next king (after a long barrenness!). They report her to Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà, who tries to get Tumbi (the past king's son and her own first cousin) to invite her for a family discussion & see her off to an ambush (where she will be killed). Tetenise meets Láwà and Tumbi before getting to the danger zone. The plot is foiled, the plotters killed and disabled (by Tetenise's men) and Tumbi later exiled. The king takes Láwà to live on his farm, where they meet occasionally. She gets pregnant there and bears a son, Tèmítọ́pẹ́ (her only child). The farm grows into a town because of Láwà's kind nature. One day, Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà goes to the farm to kill Láwà and her son.  He sleeps off under a tree, only to be woken up by Tèmítọ́pẹ́, who was hunting. Tèmítọ́pẹ́ spares him (remembering that his parents told him to be wary of Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà but not to kill him) and takes him to his mother's hut. He stays with them, so he won't have to face his senders without having done the job.

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Èyíàrà has a trustworthy friend, Tòròníwà, who often advises her to abandon her revenge plans against Fìkàwòkà. While Fìkàwòkà distances herself from Èyíàrà to escape revenge, Èyíàrà sticks to her like a leech. One day, Èyíàrà invites Tòròníwà and Fìkàwòkà to come and get food for their children during a famine from her husband's farm. Knowing fully well there is a flood-prone river near the farm, she pretends to be ill before they arrive. Both decide to wait and care for her till she gets better but she sends Tòròníwà home to get her a certain drug. That same night after Tòròníwà left, heavy rains fall and the river becomes impassable for 15 days. Though Tòròníwà often cares for Fìkàwòkà's 2 children, one of them dies.

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When Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà confides in Tèmítọ́pẹ́ that his wickedness results from his being a slave who has no wife or progeny to benefit or suffer from his character, Tèmítọ́pẹ́ gives him a farm and tools and pays for his freedom. He gets him land to build a house on. His bad reputation, however, makes it difficult to get him a wife.

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Fìkàwòkà  befriends another very wicked woman, Kerewu-ola (who is called Kéréwùú-ìkà or Wí-ìkà for her wickedness). They both decide to befriend Tòròníwà as well to get Èyíàrà. Tòròníwà regularly reveals their plans to Èyíàrà without appearing to do so. One day, they tell Tòròníwà to invite Èyíàrà to go to a farm with them and that they will send Tòròníwà home from there. When Tòròníwà tells Èyíàrà, she decides to play along. When the wicked duo start walking farther ahead and talking secretly, Èyíàrà goes into the bush  "to defecate" and tells Tòròníwà to go home and raise the alarm after a fruitless search for her. Tòròníwà does so and the wicked duo are arrested and taken to the palace. Èyíàrà resurfaced, meets them at the palace and uses the opportunity to tell the king and the townspeople about her evil friends' acts towards her. Fìkàwòkà's remaining child's death is reported to her during the trial. Èyíàrà begs the king not to execute them so that their consciences can punish them well. Èyíàrà later advises the evildoers to leave town (to escape revenge from other people they have offended) and settle down wherever they finish planting the seeds she will give them. The seeds are used up the 3rd day and they settle down in Tèmítọ́pẹ́'s town. Tèmítọ́pẹ́ marries Kéréwùú-ọlá (in addition to his first wife, Ìjíade) and Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà marries Fìkàwòkà. While Fìkàwòkà bears 2 sons for Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà in 3 years, Tèmítọ́pẹ́'s wives remain childless.  An oracle says Tèmítọ́pẹ́ will become king before having a child and the mother of his first child is in another land.Tèmítọ́pẹ́ inherits and acquires many wives after becoming king. Yet they all remain childless.

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Fìkàwòkà's and Kéréwùú-ọlá's "abandoned" husbands and those the women have offended start a conspiracy against Èyíàrà, who decides to leave town. To evade her husband's opposition, she pretends to be dead after telling Tòròníwà (in Pépélúwà's hearing) to deposit her corpse somewhere in the bush with all her belongings if she doesn't survive her "illness". Tòròníwà obeys and later goes there to untie her "corpse". Èyíàrà follows her friend's fruit trees to Tèmítọ́pẹ́'s town. An oracle tells Tèmítọ́pẹ́ to donate Kéréwùú-ọlá to Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà and marry Èyíàrà. Èyíàrà gets pregnant in the first month and the king's other wives soon follow suit and celebrate her. She bears the king's first son, Tèmídayọ̀. Kéréwùú-ọlá too has started bearing children for Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà (who now lives in the palace, as the chief of palace guards, with his 2 wives).

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Èyíàrà visits her hometown with her 3 children, her mother-in-law (Láwà) and her entourage (including 2 virgins, who she offers to Pépélúwà as her replacement). Tèmítọ́pẹ́ and Láwà die soon afterwards and Tèmídayọ̀ becomes king. King Tèmídayọ̀ hears about Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà's atrocities and is about to order his execution when Èyíàrà steps in (after her friends' pleadings) and begs him to leave the old man to God. Guilt and shame force Ṣẹ́tẹ̀ẹ́ẹ̀kà to hang himself soon after. His first son, Ọlátósìn,( by Fìkàwòkà) is appointed the new chief of palace guards.

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After Tèmídayọ̀ has heard Èyíàrà's full history with her "friends", he decides to hold a feast to celebrate her visiting parents (Fimíhàn and Títílọlá).  Fìkàwòkà and Kéréwùú-ọlá decide to hide on their farm to avoid a revenge Tèmídayọ̀ never had in mind. They lie down to sleep on the way only to be trapped in a circular bush fires set by hunters, who didn't know anyone was there. Only their skulls are recovered after the fire burns itself out. Their skulls are buried at the doorstep of Èyíàrà's room for her to step on all the time. After burying her parents, Èyíàrà lives long enough to see her great-grandchildren before being given a mouth-watering burial by King Tèmídayọ̀.

The story ends with the poem, "Ìwọ ni" (You are the one) which mentions both the good and the wicked characters in the novel.

Sunday, April 30, 2023

"Ìyàwó alárédè" ( a play by Sunday Ẹ̀ṣọ́-Olúbọ́rọ̀dé).




Mojere is doing a Sandwich first-degree program at UNILORIN during the university holidays( while she works with her NCE at Osogbo at other times). Her friend, Fúnmi, visits her in her room and notices she looks depressed after returning earlier than expected from visiting her boyfriend, Atẹ́rẹ́. Mojere defers discussing the issue but insists on travelling to Osogbo for the weekend that very night (with Mama Segun, a fellow student), against Funmi's advice.

At the motor park, there are too many passengers for the available vehicles. Mama Segun manages to get into a vehicle but Mojere doesn't. After walking away a little, a 7-passenger private vehicle picks her up. The vehicle's occupants (the driver, the vehicle owner and Ìyá-àgbà, an elderly woman) refuse to pick any more passengers and later turn out to be kidnappers. She narrowly escapes from the bush into the expressway around Ìdọ̀fìàn in her undies only. Most motorists dodge her until Ọládélé and his friend Ọláwùmí pass by. They pick her up, drive back to Ìdọ̀fìàn to make a police report and then drop her at Osogbo.

Back at the hostel, Mojere narrates her kidnapping ordeal and the cause of her earlier depression to Funmi. A week after Atere has persuaded Mojere to abort her 2-month pregnancy, she visits him unannounced and meets 4-month-pregnant Sìk ẹ́, the woman he wants to marry, living with him. Though he was absent and Mojere waited till his arrival, the women didn't fight each other (maybe because both were in delicate states of health, one pregnant and the other recovering from an abortion). Funmi and Mojere discuss Mojere's nice Christian exes (Johnson and Ebenezer) and some nasty Muslim ones (some of whom were worse than Atere).

Mojere and Oladele start dating and she gets pregnant. When her parents discover the paternity, they (especially her father, Ayinde) fume. Oladele's parents and uncle visit Mojere's father. Even after recognising them as the relatives of the man who rescued Mojere from kidnappers, Ayinde still insists that Mojere should come back home to marry a Muslim after giving birth and handing over the child to Dele. Mojere gives birth to a son , Ibidapo, in Oladele's house. Kebijo, her mother's friend, comes to say that Ayinde is still adamant. Mojere returns home, leaving her child behind, but tells her father she will rather remain single forever in his house than marry any other man. Kolawole, Ayinde's older brother, later arrives and
preaches religious tolerance, citing the Holy Koran. Among other things, he said," Prophet Muhammad said God commands him to believe in Jesus as God's prophet sent to guide mankind... A Christian wife of a Muslim man is allowed to continue practising her religion but the children must follow their father's religion. Please allow Mojere to continue being a Muslim. My brother , please accept God's plan over Mojere's life and pray for her. My son, Rọ́pò, too wants to marry Felicia. Do we want her parents too to object?". Ayinde is won over and consents to the marriage.

Oladele's and Mojere's marriage is done in stages : letter writing between the couple's family heads, introduction, payment of bride price and bringing of traditional marriage gifts, and finally the statutory marriage at a local government secretariat. The registry official informed them that it is bigamy to marry someone else (even if it is under Native Law and Custom) while married under the Act.
During their wedding reception, a woman is caught begging with "twins" by the mother of one of the babies. The beggar explains that she rents babies for her begging business from day-care centres (who normally tell her where not to go, to avoid being seen by the real mothers). She was caught this time and taken away by the police (along with the child's mother and the mother's friends) for further investigations.

After many disappointments, Mojere too has become an "ìyàwó alárédè"(
a woman married under the Act), whose husband must not bring home another wife unless she dies or is divorced.

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OTHER CHARACTERS (NOT IN THE FAMILY TREE ABOVE)

FUNMI: Mojere's friend.
OLAWUMI & TUNDE: Oladele's friends.
DEREBA, DIONA , IYA AGBA : kidnappers.
KEBIJO : Mojere's mother's friend and Mojere's confidant.
MAMA SEGUN, OLUSOLA, IYABO, NIYI, ADEYEMO, DEJI, FUNNSO: other university students.
MORIRE: Muslim cleric who prayed at the reception.
ALUFAA OPEYEMI: Christian cleric who prayed at the reception.
BODUNDE: the court official who conducted the registry wedding.
FISAYO: marriage registry secretary.
IFAGBEMI : chairman at the wedding reception.
ADETUTU: chairwoman at the wedding reception.


Wednesday, April 19, 2023

Fibroid surgery and the recovery process




 In preparation for the surgery, you will be given an enema to clear your
bowels. A catheter will also be fixed into your urethra (to help you
urinate during the surgery and a few days afterwards ). Most surgeries
are
done under spinal anaesthesia (where only your abdominal region is numbed
through an injection into the epidural space via the muscles of your back)
rather than general anaesthesia (where your whole system is shut down and
you are made to breathe through a ventilator). This is because spinal
anaesthesia allows the medical team to constantly monitor your pulse and
check your consciousness by chatting you up. A patient under general
anaesthesia can easily die during surgery and never wake up without anyone
knowing, since most wake up only 12 or more hours after the surgery. It is
said that the slightest movement during the spinal injection leads to
inability to walk for life but my anaesthetist dispelled the notion and I
never had cause to move because my injection was painless.( Please
play it safe by not moving, to prevent stories that touch the heart.)
The hospital
gown will be tied to the drip stands across your chest , leaving only your
head and shoulders on one side and your lower body on the other side for
the surgery. A brush will be used to smear a cream on your bare skin from
the chest down to demobilise you , preventing you from moving your body and
interfering with the surgery. To remove the fibroids, the following layers
will be cut open : the abdominal skin, the muscle, fascia, peritoneum and
uterine wall .Throughout the surgery (and for days afterwards), you will be
taking in liquids through drips and urinating through the catheter into the
urine bag (to be emptied when full into bed pans by the nurses). Water is
life.

After the surgery, you will experience surgical pains (as the anaesthetics
wear off). The pains will be intense and continuous for the first 12 hours
and gradually ease off over the next few days. [ No woman can escape the
curse God placed on Eve. If you choose a Caesarean Section to avoid labour
pains, you will experience your own pains after the surgery. Even if you
don't have a child, you will undergo fibroid surgery and experience its
pains]. You will be told to lie on your back without lifting your head (or
get 5 days' headache) for the first 12 hours. After the first 12 hours , I
took my first sip of water and was allowed to sit up on the bed. You won't
be allowed to eat for the first 24 hours so that you won't have to defecate
and get up from the bed. But you will take in water through drips and later
orally and urinate through the catheter into the urine bag.

The second day, I was led to the bathroom in the morning ,bathed by a
nurse and allowed to
take tea and liquid pap. On the 3rd day,I walked round the premises . The
urine bag was removed, allowing me to try urinating normally through the
catheter into the toilet for a few hours before the catheter and the belly
plaster were removed. I was discharged from the hospital on the fourth day.


How should you take care of your body after you have been discharged from
the hospital? These tips will help.

1. Soak a piece of cotton wool in methylated spirit,squeeze out excess
spirit into a container for later use and use the wool to wipe clean the
surface of the surgical incision (in one direction only, not back and
forth)  about every 2 hours.
  Use a mirror to see the incision clearly during wiping . Don't
bother your caregivers with this little task; let them concentrate on
heavier tasks like fetching and carrying.

2. Don't scrub or peel away any scab (the hard covering formed on a wound
as it heals). Otherwise, you may scrub away both the scab and the healthy
skin developing under it. The scab will dry up and fall away by itself once
the skin underneath is fully developed.

3. If you accidentally break a scab and bleeding starts from that spot,
don't wipe away the blood (or more blood will ooze out). Let the blood form
a new scab over the spot.

4. Cover the incision (with nylon tied round your waist) when bathing , to
prevent soaking and opening up the incision.

5. The stitches will be removed by your doctor once the incision has been
covered by pink skin throughout its length. However, the holes left behind
by the removed stitches must be protected from water. Therefore , continue
to wipe the holes (and the incision line) with methylated spirit and
protect them from water until they heal.

6. After the holes heal (and there is no scab or hole on the incision
line), you can bathe your whole body without covering up any part. However,
wash the incision area gently with your hands and soap only. The pink skin
or ridge is too delicate for any hard sponge. 🔯* After your incision has
been fully covered with pink skin, stop wiping it with methylated
spirit ; it is unnecessary. 

7.  Keep constipation at bay by drinking a lot of water and eating fruits,
vegetables and fibre-rich foods. Stay away from junk foods and drinks.
Doing this will help prevent the development of new fibroids and also keep
a host of other diseases at bay.

8. Even after your incision has closed (with pink skin), don't lift
anything heavier than 2.5 kg (or 2.5 litres of water) or bend down with
your fingers below the knee (e.g. to pick something from the floor, wash
your legs,etc) for the first 3 months after the surgery. The inner layers
of the incision (between your skin and your womb) also need to heal. *
Don't eat or drink more than that amount (2.5 kg or litres) at a time.
Taking small meals frequently is better than burdening your body with heavy
meals or a lot of water.

9. Walking and lying on your back are safe exercises you can do (from the
moment you are allowed to take your first walk) to tone up the excess flab
in your belly after fibroid removal.

10.   After the third post-surgery month, you can bend down to wash your
feet, do the laundry and other chores but don't carry items that are too
heavy for you. 

11. . Be careful about lifting young children. Most children weigh about
3 kg at birth, 7 kg at 6 months, 10 kg at 1 year, 12 kg at 2, 15 kg at
3, 16 kg at 4, 19 kg at 5, etc. Walk and play with them but don't lift
too much weight too soon.

12  .Avoid riding on rickety roads to avoid upsetting your uterine
lining and seeing blood in the wrong time of your cycle. This lesson
will also protect you from a miscarriage when pregnant. Walk instead
or find a better route.

13. . Don't stress yourself unnecessarily. It is better to fetch 60
litres of water in 12 5-litre trips than in 6 10-litre trips or 5
12-litre trips. Don't always carry the maximum weight you have safely
carried before; it may be safe to carry that weight once or twice but
not on a regular basis. Spread apart your chores. Get help whenever
you can (even if you have to beg your worst enemy), rather than injure
yourself. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER UNDERGONE
SURGERY. YOU WILL HAVE TO TAKE IT EASY THROUGHOUT LIFE.

NOTE: The above tips are based on MY experiences. Yours may be different (
based on the size and location of the fibroids, extent of the surgical
cut,etc) . Therefore, consult your surgeon for specific instructions.




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Monday, April 17, 2023

Missing person: Adewale ADEBOYE

Mr Adewale ADEBOYE has been missing since May 12, 2011 (at almost 21).

HEIGHT  : 5' 10" .
LANGUAGES SPOKEN: English and Yoruba.
COMPLEXION : Chocolate.
TRIBAL MARKS: None.
LAST-KNOWN ADDRESSES: (a) Oke-Ola Line 1, Modakeke, Osun State [his residence]; (b)Alhaji Adejumo Shopping Complex, Opposite Beacon Junction, Ondo Road, Modakeke, Osun State [where he ran a barbing salon].

He was a student of the Faculty of Agriculture , Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife before he dropped out (his matriculation number being ANS/2008/002).

Anybody with useful information about his whereabouts should  please call or text  +2347055751407 , send a message to https://www.facebook.com/enaohwo.ma  , or contact the nearest police station.

May your children and other loved ones never get lost. Amen.Thanks.


"Violence" (a novel by Festus Iyayi).



The novel discusses how the rich oppress the poor and force them to pay
violence with violence. There are several cases of oppression in the novel.

Idemudia and his wife ,Adisa , live in a mud house in Benin City, Edo
State, Nigeria. They often have to go hungry and she feels he is not trying
hard enough. Idemudia has had a rough childhood with a polygamous father
who couldn't pay his school fees (making him drop out of secondary school)
and eventually chased Idemudia's mother out with all her children. He can't
find a profitable job in the city. Married 5 years earlier, he has left his
and Adisa's 3-year-old only child (Ogbodu) behind in the village for his
mother to feed.

Idemudia is wondering where to go one day when a Mercedes Benz car runs
into the gutter in front of his house. He helps the wealthy owners (Obofun
and his wife, Queen) get the car out. Queen requests for people who can
help her offload 1 500 bags of cement from 3 trailers, and Idemudia and his
friends jump at the offer. At the end of the day, he gets 5 naira.

Soon the effects of the strenuous work begin to tell on him : he becomes
very ill. There aren't enough beds at the University Hospital so they are
referred to the Ogbe Hospital. Adisa is wondering how to get food and drugs
for her husband when Obofun walks in and alleges that Idemudia has stolen
some bags of cement. After Obofun discovers the truth, he tries to have an
affair with Adisa. She refuses at first but gives in when she can't pay
Idemudia's hospital bills. Unknown to them, Queen sees them and decides to
have her own back.

Adisa later realises she needn't have sold herself ; Idemudia's friends
have contributed the money. She tells her husband that she got the money
(given her by Obofun) from her aunt, Salome (also called Yasha).

Later, Idemudia and his colleagues demand better pay from Queen. Idemudia
is chosen as their foreman. When he goes to Queen's house to negotiate with
her, she tries to bribe him with her body. (That's her usual business
style, her way of getting free supplies for her supermarket,etc from Iriso
and others. Obofun pretends not to know but sleeps with other men's wives
in revenge. Having stashed all his resources, gained from bribery and
corruption, into Queen's account, he can't afford to divorce her. Their
children too are morally corrupt; Lilian is "raped" in her parents' house
by 3 schoolboys without anyone hearing her scream. She only starts
screaming on her mother's arrival). When he refuses, she tells him about
Adisa's affair with Obofun (to hurt him).

As Idemudia returns home, he decides to kill his wife. Adisa doesn't deny
(but weeps in silence)when he confronts her with his discovery. Then he
realises that she has probably done this to pay his hospital bills ( just
as he regularly sells his blood at hospitals to feed both of them). So the
woman is forgiven and the matter forgotten.

OTHER CASES OF OPPRESSION IN THE NOVEL

1. At the Freedom Motel (owned by Obofun), delicious leftover food (which
includes meat, jollof rice, beans and dòdò) are given to pigs and dogs
while human beings like Idemudia go hungry (pages 18-20).

2. Queen and many other employers of labour are reluctant to pay their
labourers or increase their wages but are eager to increase their workload.
Dissenters are often sacked. (pages 17, 35-38, 153, 234-248, 250-251).

3. "Government concentrated on building hotels instead of hospitals in the
midst of so much disease"(page 55). Two accident victims are referred from
the University Hospital to the Ogbe Hospital (where they die the same day)
because the man who brought them there has disappeared (pages 58-59). Many
patients share beds or sleep on the floor, if they are lucky not to be
turned back from the hospital.

4. Adisa's ignorance makes her cover up feverish Idemudia (page 41),
instead of cooling his body with water and buying food with the 5 naira.
Maybe he would have recovered without having to go to the hospital to incur
a 23-naira debt.

5. Idemudia's bedmate (who is from Asaba) at Ogbe Hospital has a terrible
cough and shouts "Anuoha" after each cough (pages 59-60,76-78). Before he
dies (as an "old" man of 45!), he tells Idemudia how his wife Ifeanya was
gang-raped to death, his daughter Itetah kidnapped and his son Anuoha shot
dead, leading to his loneliness and ill health. His supposed journalist
relative, Mr Iyokoh, refuses to identify or claim his dead body or pay his
hospital bills (pages 141-148).

6. While people like Idemudia suffered in the city, village life was also
very rough. Though village people had enough food to eat (from their farms)
and lived in their own houses, farm work often aged them quickly and
shortened their life expectancies (pages 71-72, 283-284).

7. Idemudia and Adisa (at Govt Class 4 and Secondary Modern 2 respectively)
are more formally educated than Obofun and Queen (at Standard 4 and Primary
School respectively) (pages 71-72,283). Queen educated herself informally
afterwards (page 88). Yet, the latter couple are wealthier due to his
father's money (page 72) and the money he got from fraud while serving in
various Ministries (page 29).

8. Papa Jimoh (Idemudia's neighbour) is arrested for an offence committed
by his colleague, a fellow driver. He is locked up for 2 days and 3 nights
with 39 other people in a 12-by-10-feet police cell which has only a
double-decker bed. They all urinate on the floor, pass faeces into a
general bucket and take turns to sit on the bed. The company doesn't
compensate him after his innocence has been proved (pages 79-84).

 9.
One Christmas, Adisa "had bought and prepared a chicken that had died
from an illness...because there had been no money" (page 67).

10.  A play (also called "Violence") ,written by a former patient and
shown at Ogbe Hospital's 25th anniversary, shows how suffering pushes
people into crime. A 38-year-old labourer with 3 kids who gets 14
naira pay per month is charged to court for robbery with violence. So
are a schoolteacher (whose 2 former students embezzled money as
eminent personalities and were retired with full benefits) and a
jobless man (who graduated from secondary school 16 years earlier and
gets 3 naira per day when he is lucky to get menial jobs). The Defence
Counsel in the play said," acts of violence are committed when a man
is denied the opportunity of being educated, of getting a job, of
feeding himself and his family properly, of getting medical attention
cheaply, quickly and promptly. ... When such men of poor and limited
opportunities react,they are only (in a certain measure ) answering
violence with violence"(page 185). See also page 243, where violence
is defined as consisting "not of physical , brutal assault but of a
slow and gradual debasement of himself, his pride as a man". The
judgmental judge's death sentence on all the accused persons is
rendered null and void by the news of his earlier dismissal from
service for bribery and corruption.

................................MINOR CHARACTERS IN THE NOVEL................

1. MR PAPIROS CLERIDES = the thin Greek site engineer employed by
Queen against her own labourers.

2. LILIAN = one of Queen's 3 daughters.

3. ESIE = Queen's 2nd son.

4. AUNTY YASHA (SALOME) is Adisa's aunt, who is separated from her
husband (who used to beat her up after being drunk, neglected her and
her children and even borrowed money in her name). She fends for
herself and her children from the proceeds of prostitution. As a
result of her bitter experience, she often encourages Adisa to leave
Idemudia and rent a room outside like her, until she learns that he
often sells his blood to feed her (pages 46-48, 154-157,254).

5 - 10 . PATRICK , OMOIFO , BERNARD, OSARO, ANYAM, IFEANYI =
Idemudia's friends and fellow labourers. Please don't confuse IFEANYI
with IFEANYA (Anuoha's mother).

11.  RICHARD = Queen's houseboy.

12-13.  PAPA & MAMA JIMOH =  Idemudia's and Adisa's neighbours at Owode Street.

14.  ALUIYA  =  Queen's driver.

15.  IRISO = a Ministry of Agriculture official who gives Queen free
eggs, milk, fish and meat for her hotel in return for sex .

16. DALA = Iriso's friend.

17. MR ERNEST IYOKOH = a journalist mentioned by Anuoha's father as
his relative.

18. THE "OLD" MAN = Anuoha's father and Idemudia's bedmate at Ogbe Hospital.

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Sunday, March 13, 2022

"Ọgbọ́n Ọlọ́gbọ́n" by Kẹ́hìndé Adépégba

Àpínkẹ́, a spinster in Ìrírídọgbọ́n village, goes to Ìyá Ìrètí (a hairdresser) to make her hair. She also seeks advice on who to marry between single Fìtílà and married Adéṣeun. Ìyá Ìrètí tells her her own experience with polygamy.

Adétutù is warned by her father, Orísunwọ̀n, against marrying Àkànbí (from Àgbábú Village) because the oracle says he is likely to take a second wife. Her mother (Olúfúnkẹ́), impressed by Àkànbí's wealth, tells her to get pregnant for him to force Orísunwọ̀n to consent to the marriage. She obeys her mother and becomes Àkànbí's first wife. She bears 3 children (Adéṣẹwà , Adépéjú and Adéolú) before he marries Ọmọ́ṣọlá. One day , while their husband is away, Ọmọ́ṣọlá fights Adétutù and accuses her of being behind her 5-year childlessness. After chasing Adétutù into her room, she later admits (in a soliloquy) : (a) being naturally childless ; (b) being behind the deaths of Adéṣẹwà and Adépéjú; (c) her readiness to kill 6-year-old  Adéolú too, in order to make Adétutù ("the favourite wife") childless like her. Adétutù overhears her, quickly packs her belongings and flees with her only remaining child. On her way to her parents' house at Ìrírídọgbọ́n, night falls and she spreads a mat to sleep with her son by the roadside. When she wakes up the next day, Adéolú is nowhere to be found! When she gets to her parents'   house and tells them, they send Tàlàbí (her younger brother) to summon Àkànbí. Tàlàbí comes back to report Àkànbí's death in his sleep.

Adétutù remains single because: (a) no bachelor will want to marry a mother of 3 ; (b)she doesn't want to marry a married man and face the problems of polygamy again. Her hope of finding Adéolú makes the people around her nickname her "Ìyá Ìrètí" (= Hope's mother).

14 years later, Agbọmọlà (who inscribed Adéolú's traditional facial marks in childhood at Àgbábú village) sees him working on a farm in Onírèké village. After noticing the marks and asking for his name, Agbọmọlà asks to see his parents. His adoptive parents, Akínbámi and Ìbídùn, admit seeing him wandering about as a 6-year-old and remembering nothing else except his name, Adéolú. They follow Agbọmọlà to hand him over to his mother at her village. Adéolú takes good care of his mother and doesn't even want her to work for money but she doesn't want to be idle.

Even though nobody is contesting Àkànbí's property with her, Ọmọ́ṣọlá decides to eliminate  Adéolú. While reciting the incantations over a pot of charms, the charms boomerang on her and she runs mad. She confesses her atrocities (including killing  Àkànbí) before she is stoned to death by a crowd.

Àpínkẹ́ now decides against a polygamous marriage. Let's hope  the bachelor she marries won't marry a second wife after her. After all,  Adétutù too married a bachelor.

"Uyon" by Udosen Matthias. (an Efik poem)

  Se mkpri Ndito ko eda Uyai Mmö iwake aba mbiet Ye imam ke inua mmö ke esak Koro ini Uyen edide ini Idara Ini eno ye mfön;  Mkpö anam eyen ...