The real home-breaker

Joyce could vouch for her husband's fidelity (even when he gave excuses of busy and exacting office schedules as reasons for his late nights and frequent travels) until she received a text message on her phone. The message read : " You don't know me, but I just want to inform you that I'm no longer dating your husband, Steve. ... I now know that what we did was wrong. I'm sorry for any pain I may have caused you. Do forgive me".

When Steve returned from work that night, Joyce confronted him about the text message, but he denied it vehemently. Joyce would not stop there. She wanted to get to the bottom of the matter so she demanded to go through his phone logs, messages and contacts, raising her obviously exasperated voice at him. Irked by his wife's effrontery, Steve lost his cool, accused her of nagging and ingratitude, picked up a few of his clothes and stormed out of the house, not knowing she was 2 weeks pregnant with their second child.

He didn't return until 9 months later , when she had lost the baby after a Caesarean section due to pregnancy complications. They eventually reconciled, after paying a steep price for not settling their dispute  amicably as the Bible commands.   

1. The Bible says at Luke 17:1 , "It is impossible for offences not to come". However, we should not retaliate when offended (Romans 12: 17 - 19). Resolve your differences as outlined in Matthew 18:15-18. Forgive your offender, even if there is no apology (Ephesians 4:32 ; Psalm 103 : 10,12 ; Romans 5: 8-11 ; Matthew 18:35). Try to avoid offending others and seek their forgiveness if you have offended them already( Acts 24:16 ; Romans  14 ; Hebrews 12:14).

2. Steve's other woman did a lot of damage to his marriage with that text message. She was probably dumped and deliberately wanted to crash  his marriage in retaliation. Otherwise, why confess to the WIFE? A bitter ex can do more damage to a marriage than a current mistress who "hides her head".